Tuesday, May 19, 2009

My Second Annual 25th Birthday

So this Thursday is my birthday. I'm not completely ready to be closer to 30 than 20, so I've decide to celebrate my 2nd Annual 25th birthday instead! While I've had many naysayers, I personally think that this is a genius idea because I can keep up this trend for as long as I'd like.

Monday, May 18, 2009

Text works better than talk?

Need more proof that we are living in a technologically dependant society? That Dude and I tend to discuss most of the important topics via email extensively before we ever touch on them in person! Some people would say that this is a bad idea, but to them I say, "Mind your business!" (actually, I wouldn't say that even if people didn't approve.) But what I would say is that it works for us, so why fix what's not broken?

That Dude and I have been extremely lucky on that we were friends before dating and extremely honest straightforward friends at that, so there hasn't been much opportunity for a real argument, since we both already knew fairly well each others' triggers. But the important topics have come up nonetheless. We've discussed the implications of going from dating to being in a relationship, money, family issues, and how to deal with obviously different communication styles - all via email (and texts at times.) We always follow up by discussing over the phone or in person, but by that point, we generally have an idea about the others' feelings as well as specific questions to help us understand whatever hasn't already been made clear.

Our deep email conversations have another advantage: NO INTERRUPTIONS! How many couples can sit and discuss lots of different topics that they don't always agree on and very nicely go back and forth with their own opinions being heard and never be interrupted? If you are raising your hand, then your relationship deserves the big invisible award of pretendland! Let's all be honest with each other here (or at minimum with ourselves) it just isn't easy to have someone say that your opinions are incorrect and that theirs are, without at least the urge to jump in with an explanation of why your opinion is actually the correct one. Seriously people, they're your opinions for a reason!

Any-whoo, I wonder, as I get deeper into this serious relationship, what ways other couples facilitate communication?

Saturday, May 16, 2009

Six Word Saturday...

Description of my day in six words:

"Another Saturday working with little sleep"

or it could be

"Real friends are great but few."

or maybe

"Sometimes people don't think things through."

Make sure to visit Cate to see who else is participating this week!

Thursday, May 14, 2009

I've mentioned the saying before that "Expectations are predetermined disappointments". Well it seems to have happened again. I won't say exactly what I was expecting for, but I got my hopes up about something and it looks like it's not going to happen as soon as I had hoped for. I was completely ok with it last night and this morning, but now, as I sit on the train heading to work, I realized how excited I really was. I'm not angry or hurt, or even worried, since I know that it's not completely done for, just postponed a bit, but it does feel a little anti-climatic.

At least I'm able to see the bigger picture and know that if and when it finally does happen, it'll be in God's time and not my own!

Friday, May 8, 2009

Why I Blog...

It's a few minutes after 4am and I've been awake for a couple of hours. I seem to find myself awake at strange hours more often than I like lately. This time, I figured I'd take the time out to do something that I often complain that there simply isn't enough time to do - WRITE!

I began thinking (as I lay here in bed) about why I began blogging in the first place. My old blog was basically an online journal for me to get my thoughts out onto. Only one friend knew about it, and as time went on, I actually made the blog private so that even she wouldn't be able to read it. Then, a few months ago, I was inspired to start another blog and along came this one. I have a few IRL* friends who know about it, which sometimes makes me wonder if I should get too personal with the content. As I type this though, I know that the few people who do know about this blog (That Dude, my mom, my "Comadre"**, and a couple of CityLighters***) wouldn't judge me for the things that sometimes I just need to get out. In fact, I know that they would take the initiative and hug me (THANKS SAM! It meant more than you will ever, ever know) when I do share something. So from now on (unless this is all just 4am brain speaking, of course) things are going to get a little more personal.

I pray that you guys can help me walk through this crazy thing called life as I share my ups and downs!

*In Real Life
** Literally means "Co-Mother" - In many Hispanic cultures, the Godparents are considered equal with the parents, so my Goddaughters' mother is my co-mother
***CityLight Church is the Non-denominational Church that I attend